Too much choice can be confusing, so try to narrow down. The way we work at Cathedral Gowns is that each bride is forced to compare each dress to the last one she tried on. They can’t all be in the running, my job is to help you eliminate and go from the choice of a store full of 100+ dresses to that one ideal dream dress. It really is a process of elimination! My aim for each bride leaving the boutique is to find your perfect dress! And if we haven’t found the exact one, we need to at least have established which silhouette, fabric, detail and neckline you like the most.
Try on as many as you feel you need to, but don’t fall into the trap of trying on too many. I’ve met many girls who have tried on more than 100 dresses and dozens of boutiques. If you get to that point you should be asking yourself some serious questions. Are you selecting dresses to try on that you don’t suit/ like etc. Or does what you like keep changing? Don’t worry if you can’t find one that ticks all the boxes – alterations and design changes can be done to most dresses to make them perfect. Aline skirts can be made more fitted, straps can be added, necklines can be changed. When you are in the hands of a good bridal boutique with great designers anything is possible!
The only pressure you should ever feel when trying to decide should either be time scale related or if the dress is likely to sell from stock or be discontinued anytime soon. It shouldn’t be a stressful situation.
The trick is to know when to stop shopping, which can be hard for a lot of girls since shopping for wedding dresses is one of the most exciting parts of wedding planning, and choosing for it to be over is hard to do.
I am asked all the time how do I really know it’s the ‘one’ – these are the questions you should be asking yourself!
- Can you picture yourself wearing it on the day?
- Do you like how your body looks in the dress?
- Do you like how the dress itself looks?
- Do you smile when you see your reflection?
- Do you feel excited?
- Do you feel confident?
- Do you feel happy?
- Do you feel beautiful?
- Do you keep comparing every dress to it?
- Do you feel like you’ve tried on enough dresses?
- Would you be gutted if you weren’t allowed to buy it?
- Do you like it?
- Do you love it?
If you’ve answered yes to four or more of these questions, I’d be pretty certain that you’ve found your wedding dress! But I can usually tell before you’ve even looked in the mirror yourself! The dress can totally change your demeanour and some girls faces just light up when they are in the right dress! At the end it’s all about how it makes you feel! If you feel good in it, buy it and don’t look back!