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The Perfect Wedding Dress Myth Exposed

This month I wanted to write about something that I’m sure might ruffle a few feathers and that the wedding magazine industry probably won’t like. I want to dispel this myth, and the associated pressure, of there being ‘the one’ perfect wedding dress and a ‘magical’ moment when you find it!  I’ve noticed it a lot in bridal magazines – they like to talk about how you’ll ‘just know’ when you find your wedding dress, but in my experience this doesn’t happen very often, and creating and pushing this expectation is unrealistic, unfair and dangerous.

Trying to find the perfect wedding dress

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I’ve succumbed to it myself – I’m sure past adverts on our website have referred to it, but after nine years in the industry I can see that it is kind of bullsh*t. The whole bridal industry is centred around trying to help girls track down the elusive, heaven sent, perfect dress! But in reality there are any number of gowns that would be brilliant options for each bride, it really is just about coming to the point where you feel like you’ve seen enough options and are happy to purchase the one you’re standing in.

Fairytale wedding dress

There isn’t any other garment so over analysed as the wedding dress, so describing that moment of finding it in fairytale-esque terms just puts even more pressure on what should be a fun and easy process. It’s kind of ridiculous if you think about it.  I have witnessed this fallacy ruin the bridal shopping experience for so many girls. It frustrates me so much to see a girl stand in a dress staring at her reflection, clearly loving what she sees, who then decides that this dress cannot possibly be ‘the one’ because her mum hasn’t cried and she doesn’t have butterflies!

Butterflies in your stomach moment

Now don’t get me wrong, plenty of girls have that exact reaction but they are few and far between. And for those girls who haven’t and won’t have it, hearing about it just makes them feel like there is something wrong with them or that they haven’t fully had a bridal experience, that somehow they’ve been short-changed. Can you imagine how it must feel to be trying on wedding dresses and waiting for this fabled moment where the heavens will open and the angels sing! Wedding dresses aren’t magical, and waiting for one to make you cry or feel like a bride is one of the most unfair pressures to put on yourself. I’ve witnessed friends – rational sensible girls – crumble under this ridiculous pressure and ultimately taint their experience of trying on pretty dresses.

So please girls, as part of your preparation to try on wedding dresses, take a step back and see that the only important thing about wedding dresses is that you like it! I really want to see girls approach wedding dress shopping with way less pressure – don’t let the ‘perfect wedding’ bullies ruin it for you.

Article by Catherine Massey

Catherine has been writing Bi-Weekly Article for us since the 8th May 2012 and is our very talented Bridal Specialist. Catherine is a Bridal Stylist for their family Bridal Boutique, Cathedral Gowns. Find them onlineat http://www.cathedralgowns.com or on Facebook.

Any questions, email catherine@thebeautycloud.co.uk

Dress of the Month ~ January 2014

This month my favourite dress has to be the lovely Kerry.  It may be that it’s the soft satin in this style that has captured my attention over all the tulle and lace styles that are filling our rails, but there is just something gorgeous about Kerry!

Dress of the Month, Bridal
We have her in size 20 and I feel that she does all kinds of favours for us curvier girls. The way the pleats hang along the body curve will emphasise an hourglass silhouette. For those of us with more of a thick waist, the deep sweetheart neckline and criss-cross effect through the waist will create a nipped in effect.

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This dress features a lace up corset back and superior interior corsetry which also contributes to that perfect silhouette.

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I love that the beaded detailing on this gown is concentrated to one small area – enough to add that mandatory bridal Swarovski sparkle but minimal enough not to be overwhelming.

I pair this dress with a headpiece featuring the same beading, worn on the opposite side of the head for balance, and a ribbon edged veil cascading the full length of the train.

For more information about this dress or to try it for yourself, please contact Catherine at Cathedral Gowns (Tel: 028 4461 2532)

Wedding Planning Resources List to help you plan with ease.

I could chat for days about wedding planning! My head is so full of ideas and suggestions for making planning your wedding easy and straightforward, that I could bore you to sleep!

So I have compiled my most useful tips and resources to help you plan your wedding and keep yourself organised and efficient.

1. Visit local wedding fayres.                                                                                                  They really are the best resource for finding local companies who can help bring your wedding vision to life, and are an amazing resource for inspiration when you are right at the beginning of wedding planning. I’ve already blogged about how to navigate and make the most of wedding fayres. Click here to view it.tumblr_lumj1uNZ8V1qetqi6o1_400

2. Buy some wedding magazines.                                                                              My favourites are the local magazines, as they’ll give you a better idea of what is available locally, and are chock full of articles, inspiration and real life weddings too! Most also have a planning calendar section which you can pull out and use as the basis for your planning strategy and will help you organise your spending too.

3. Speak with other brides to be and past brides.                                     Share ideas and recommendations and help each other out. Facebook and Twitter can be really good to help you start the conversation!

4. Check out wedding related programmes on T.V.                                Most of the wedding programmes around are a bit too scandal oriented and outrageous so don’t have much value for gathering ideas, but I really rate programmes like David Tutera’s My Fair Wedding on Wedding TV. Granted he has a pretty limitless budget for the weddings he creates but they are utterly spectacular!

5. Have a nosey online!                                                                                                              Now I really could talk for hours about everything you can spot and use for your wedding on the internet! It’s full of all kinds of amazing things and the best bit about it is that it’s free! It’s easy to be overwhelmed so I’ve done the sifting and searching and here are my top recommendations.

Check out wedding planning websites with communities of brides-to-be such as Confetti,  Hitched, You and Your Wedding,  Weddings Online Ireland.  These are the perfect place to search for suggestions and ask questions from other brides to be!

Another fabulous type of resource are wedding blogs! My all time favourites are the gorgeous Style Me Pretty and Love My Dress but I also love Rock My Wedding.

Some of the best wedding planning sites with creative ideas for DIY brides are The Knot and Martha Stewart Weddings.f9b3c443e172a7a6742a137b9f4c144b

My own ultimate favourite is PINterest. I’ve been gawping at wedding inspiration boards on there for a long time now! I am a very visual person so I find it to be the most amazing resource for everything from dress ideas to make-up and hair looks.

6. My most useful tip is to buy yourself a gorgeous planning file to keep all your notes together.                                                                                                                                                                     It doesn’t have to be specifically a wedding planning binder, but try to find something that is pretty and compact enough to pop in your handbag. Use it to categorize your planning strategy and file all your ideas in the beginning, to keep swatches, receipts and vendor contracts safe throughout planning, and as a lovely memento to keep when your wedding is over.

Wedding Plan Folder

My favourite wedding planning files are the cute and kitschy ones stocked in Paperchase. Create a special folder on your smartphone! Take pictures of pretty things you spot and file your on the go notes in your little planning folder.

You really can find inspiration in all kinds of places, the key is to make a note of your ideas and thoughts before they drop out of your head! I’d love to hear your top tips for wedding planning and if you have any suggestions for useful resources!